How to improve your aura
Lessons from a woman with a sharp tongue
I’m trying to think what my grandma would say about aura.
She was known for saying things like “I was always the prettiest” (about herself, not me). In fact she once told me, “You’re prettier than your mom, but not as pretty as I was.” In front of both me and my mom. Lol I loved that bitch. Vanity runs in my family, but really, she was the prettiest.
If she liked an outfit, she would call it “sharp”
If she thought someone was interesting, she would say, “He’s neat.”
Or when I told her I was moving to NYC at 22, she said, “Oh you’re going to love it, everyone there thinks they are better than everyone else.”
Or when I wore a low cut top, she said “Oh you dress like a slut just like I used to. But don’t forget you don’t have to dress like that because you’re pretty.” She was teaching me about face cards before they were face cards.
My grandma had aura. She never gave a fuck. That’s the first way to improve yours - stop caring about what everyone thinks. These days everyone is so PC and scared of having an opinion. We’re supposed to have opinions and be different. I don’t want to be friends with myself or follow myself, I want to follow and befriend people with unique views and different ideas on life, travel, anything. Just different than my own.
Another quote of my grandmas, “Why would I have friends if I like myself better?”
If we all do and think the same, we’re all just mirror images of generally boring people. That’s what I’ve come to love about this platform. People say things and open up. They don’t worry how many likes on a post or what their high school archnemesis is going to say about how they look.
That brings me to my next point, your looks. Aura is felt, not seen. That said, you can’t be hunched over and insecure and think you have aura. You don’t have to be the prettiest, you don’t have to be the skinniest. You do have to be confident in yourself.
Did you guys watch the vampire diaries? Nina Dobrev played Elena (weak aura) and Katherine (heavy aura). She was literally the same actress, same looks, same body, same everything. The difference was her character’s aura. It’s not about how you look, it’s about how you carry yourself.
With that, you have to feel like your best self which means making sure you look like your best self. Again, this isn’t being prettier than someone else, it’s being the prettiest version of you.
Aura checklist:
eye contact
sharp tongue
don’t care what others think
shoulders back
confidence
remember you’re that bitch
thinking “what would my grandma do”
style
Be sharp. Be neat. Carry yourself like you belong in every room you walk into.
Take a page out of her book.
x Alex
Your grandma was absolutely iconic
Love this! 🩶